Adolescence can be a difficult time for any young person; stresses can develop at home as well as within school/college life and this can result from increasing peer pressures from other young people. Building a positive and affirming relationship can really help your child to grow into a successful young adult and here are some pointers from our team on how you can work on this.

Be proud of your children and tell them how great they are!

From our anti-bullying training, we have seen time and time again how the practice of giving and receiving compliments is highly beneficial to young people and adults alike. There are countless ways of passing these affirming messages onto others, but regardless of its delivery, the act of passing a compliment to another is key to developing and maintaining self-esteem and confidence in ourselves. 

Take every opportunity to praise your child for their hard work and achievements, their individuality, or something they’ve done. Did they make you laugh today? Have they improved at school? It can really make a difference.

Support them and talk about great role models. 

This can seem like quite an apparent point, however we do feel it is important for parents and guardians to familiarise themselves with who their children look up to. For example, the celebrity supporters of the Anti-Bullying Ambassadors Programme are those who young people would look up to, they can be found here. In addition, they demonstrate a positive message in how they promote the message of anti-bullying which shows how they are a great role model. Share your role models with them and explain how they have inspired you in any way including how to make a positive difference.

 However your children find their role models inspirational, support them in understanding what it is about them that instils good morals and inspiration in others. We all find different people inspirational and this is something to respect each other for as well as finding common ground on shared views.

Celebrate their achievements & support them in their decisions.

Every person has their own level of attainment as well as their own desires for achievement. We all have the ability to achieve in their own unique way and the ways this can be done are limitless: this can be academic achievement, committing themselves to a good cause or excelling at a sport or an art. 

Supporting your child to take any decision in what they do with their life is really important; the more support that they receive from the family will enhance their confidence and drive them towards reaching their goals.

Celebrate uniqueness.

Difference is something that should be celebrated and encouraged in all of us. Understanding and appreciating how different people are is key to beginning to eliminate bullying in all of its forms. People can be bullied because of any difference and can range from anything from height to sexuality, weight to disability, hair colour to race.

In order to have a society that truly embraces all kinds of difference, we must all play our part. Young People can find this extremely difficult in terms of not only finding their place in the world, but also in any difference they may be perceived to have. Talk about all that makes the human race diverse and fascinating with your children, making sure that no subject is taboo; this will empower them to embrace diversity in all its forms and therefore be comfortable with who they and as a consequence, be able to stand up to others who bully them or other people because of their difference. 

The Diana Award scheme celebrates and encourages young people aged 9 - 18 for the contribution they make to their communities. If you know a young person who deserves to be recognised for their positive contribution then speak to their school or organisation to nominate them today. More information on the awards can be found at:

Encourage them to talk, share their world.

A simple suggestion, but harder to put into practice. Hopefully by thinking about the points above, a good rapport is building. Share interests and ideas with your children and get excited about what they do in their lives.

We suggest that you also play games with your children; this is a common form of entertainment for young people, so play their favourite game with them, Minecraft or whatever they enjoy playing. This can be in many variants, for example a stream of videos they enjoy on a channel on YouTube. The sooner you do this the better as it demonstrates to them that you are interested in their interests and also you can educate yourself as to how they are engaging in the digital world. This also does not exclude playing more traditional games with them as well such as trivial pursuit, black jack etc.

The Diana Network Programme is a great way for parents/guardians to open doors for their children to take part in positive activities whilst training them through personal and professional skills sessions. Our Peer-2-Peer Mentoring Programme supports young people to achieve their full potential by connecting them to a young role model. For more information on these programmes please visit: